Friday, March 10, 2023

marriage permanence


What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.
Mark 10:9

I hope I am not just writing out of feelings of my own loss of Joni to pancreatic cancer. God brought us together. God has chosen to separate us by death. I’m not particularly “prideful” that our marriage went all the way to the gates of heaven. Frankly, it kinda still sucks. I’m still reeling from it in many ways.

But I do agree with Jesus that a strictly human, casual view of matrimony is outrageous and wrong. And it is all too prevalent today. If it were only a human commitment, than running from problems, splitting in disagreements, ducking difficulties, going totally selfish would be the foolish and completely self-serving thing to do. It just proves that real love, however, never really entered the relationship. Self love first is not real love.

Real love says it is sorry and grieves when it has hurt a spouse. Real love helps sacrificially when the relationship dips to a low. Real love faces hell on earth with grace, guts, sacrifice, and determination to never let go, even though it is tempting to want an easy way out. Real love will not separate. Why? That is not how God loves. Nothing separates us from the love of God (Romans 8:35-39). Nothing should separate when we learn to love with His love.

2 comments:

  1. Beautiful words, showing deep loss and deep love Martin. God is good. He has a Plan for us, not to harm us but to benefit us.

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  2. I just read this to Phil and we both really appreciate and resonate with what you had to say here. Marriage isn't easy, but worth it. You and Joni have provided us with a great example. Thank you for the encouragement.

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